There was a time when I struggled to get out of bed, which is why I felt compelled to share how to get through your hard season and find joy everyday.
What makes you want to get out of bed in the morning? Is it the thought of quiet time with God, your family, sunshine, the rooster next door, an annoying alarm clock, the fresh smell of coffee, the need to make money to support the family? Or perhaps nothing, because you don’t want to get out of bed.
Have you been there? The feeling that nothing motivates you, that life is dull or bleak.
If you have too, you are not alone.
1 in 17 people suffer in silence, so chances are you or someone you know is suffering right now.
The season I dealt with depression was very hard.
My struggle was at its worse one cold winter morning. It was the time of year when the sun was gone and the days were shorter; when the celebrations of the holiday season were over.
I have never felt so isolated and distant than in that season.
Let me fill you in on my life at the time…
I wore a lot of hats; a business owner, planning another business venture, mom, wife and community volunteer. We had two moves within 3 years. The most recent to a bigger house in a neighborhood that from what I could see didn’t have any kids or moms. The neighborhood park was run down at the time and my neighbors to one side of me were very disrespectful (all things we didn’t notice before moving).
It was a hard transition, but I thought I was adjusting well.
I told myself I was fine.
If I were being honest I wasn’t fine.
I became sad, withdrawn and it seemed the joy of life was gone.
My sadness was exacerbated by seeing the bare trees of winter, all the leaves from fall had floated away and all that was left was death. Thinking about the trees and paralleling them with the chaos from the world around me on the news and the chaos of my own stressed out life, made me feel overwhelmed with sadness.
I reached a point where I was sad over being sad.
How could this be I thought, I am such a positive person.
It started taking over and before I knew it, my depression took hold of me.
I couldn’t rationalize anything, I couldn’t reflect and I felt I had no way to make my situation better.
I felt stuck in my mind which was being controlled by my emotions. The reasoning part of my brain had obviously been subdued.
The horrible truth was that I was embarrassed to share what I was going through with anyone other than my husband.
I finally did reach out to a couple people close to me, and to my surprise so many other women went through similar experiences.
I see this as a silent struggle for so many of us. My hope is that by reading this you will know that you are not alone.
We all struggle, but it is how you handle the struggle that makes all the difference.
Let’s face it life can be hard. Learn how to get through your hard season and find joy everday with these three easy biblical principals.
Trails make you stronger
The bible tells us to rejoice in the suffering of Christ so that we may be overjoyed when his glory is revealed. (1 Peter 4:13)
And to consider it all joy when we face trails, for they are testing our faith which leads to endurance. (James 1:2-4)
As a Christian I used to think if I believe in God and live in his ways I will never struggle.
Nope, that is just not true.
We will all struggle, that is the nature of life. Life is filled with highs, lows and in between’s. It is our job to go through the dark days and then use what we leaned as growth opportunities.
You see if I had stayed there in that season I wouldn’t be writing to you today. Instead it was in this season I found God who helped me endure the suffering.